Spanking Models Are People Too
Considering that I just had to delete from the comment moderation queue some rude comments about the physical appearance of one of the models appearing lower on the page, I guess it’s time to remind people:
- Spanking models — and porn models in general — are people. Yes, really.
- They have feelings.
- And web browsers.
- Sometimes, they even stop by here.
- Seeing random rude opinions about their body shapes will not make them feel loved and appreciated.
- There ain’t no call for sharing that kind of opinions. Nobody wants to hear them, so keep them to yourself. Thumper rule is in effect.
- For these reasons were comment moderation queues instituted among mankind. Thus endeth the lesson.
There is never a call to be rude. If what you see doesn’t fill your fantasies – just look somewhere else. Derogatory comments aren’t needed nor very helpful.
Those that “protest” the loudest should probably take a good look in the mirror first.
An annoyance that drives me batty!! The worst place that I have seen for negative comments is spanking tube. As great as the site is, and it really is a fantastic place to go, there is the unfortunate side effect that ANYONE can create an anonymous profile and spew venom. The absolute worst that I saw was “Getting a real life whore to play one on camera, no experience needed”.
Yeah, well, one of the primary pleasures I derive from having my own blog is that I simply don’t have to tolerate the rude, the creepy, and the people who never learned about appropriate boundaries. Or rather, I may have to see their comments, but I get the distinct pleasure of making sure nobody else does. ;-)
Another (not) favorite are the guys (and they are always guys) who act like they believe all the models are reading the blog and so they write their lewd proposals to them in the comments in first person direct address mode. Sigh…
I am amused to report that I have now filtered out four comments from the same person, accusing me of “censorship”, “evil”, “fascism”, and “dictatorship” for not publishing creepy comments, and for not allowing his (?) first hyperbolic criticism of my “censorship” to be published here.
I’m perfectly willing to publish comments from people who disagree with my moderation policy, if they can do it in a polite and friendly fashion. Accusing me of censorship and fascism? Doesn’t meet that test, sorry. Plus, it’s ignorant of the history and context that informs those words.
In Australia, where we have draconian laws governing online defamation, being a moderator can be a wealth hazard. It can reach its peak in the case of an over-zealous moderator working for a large and prestigious organisation that maintains public online forums. A moderator can very easily find himself or herself the defenceless target of a vicious entrapment.
Our problems began away from the kink scene, with questions about the right to emit hate-speech on radio. Australia now has anti-vilification laws, but many maintain that it would be better to let the bigots have full and free rein – otherwise we risk driving them underground where they can no longer be easily identified.
The owner of one privately-run bdsm mailing list in Australia has even gone so far as to head his website in bold font: “There have been important changes to the behaviour of the List Admins in order to ensure that they can avoid any possible hint of being legally liable under defamation law.”
I have personally declined invitations to moderate, and rather shamefully (to my conscience) resigned immediately from other appointments when I sensed a trap ahead. I think that the danger, at least within Australia, is that the Internet may have its reputation for freedom and dissent smothered under a spreading blanket of stifling conformity. To the casual observer this must surely give a false impression of the world at large.
I have no remedy, apart from the very selfish one of “look after your own skin”. If you sense danger then run away, despite all the promises to stand by you. In Australia at least it’ll be your wealth, your reputation, at stake.
Eric, I knew that defamation law was really messed up in Britain, but I didn’t realize it was out of control in Australia as well. That’s one thing we’ve gotten more-or-less right here in the US, thank goodness.
Interestingly, the guy who keeps trying to get his anti-censorship rants through my moderation also appears to be from Australia, so he may not be aware that in the American conception, free speech is understood to be “free from government intervention” and censorship is something that governments do. Me, I’m just exercising my own free speech rights as a publisher to print, or not print, what pleases me; it’s literally impossible for me to act as a censor.
Which reminds me, I’ve just stifled the views of another charming fellow who doesn’t agree with my policy on body commentary; he feels that someone (he uses an uncharming ghetto word for a woman) who shows her body “must accept others’ opinions”. Perhaps that’s so, but once again, I never volunteered to publish those opinions when derogatory; and I shan’t.
Not without good reason is Sydney, in New South Wales, known as the litigation capitol of the world. At one time, on a per-capita basis, more lawsuits were being lodged in that city than in any place on Earth. We had a change when truth alone was no longer sufficient defence in a defamation case but the improvement was illusory. As one exasperated litigant was heard to say “How do I demonstrate that I wasn’t acting maliciously in telling the truth?”
History offers a plausible explanation for our attitudes, although students of history are often surprised to learn that the constitutions of America and Australia are each the work of people who derived from Europe. The difference is that people went to America in search of a better life, while people were sent to Australia in the expectation that they would never be seen again.
European Australia began as a servile penal colony. Almost our very existence depended on our ability to ingratiate ourself to the warders. And of course the jailers were a ready source of ‘justice’, “Dad! Mum! He called me a rude name! You hit him! Yeah, ya both hit him!” From sullen submissive children we ‘matured’ into over-protected narcissistic adults who are hyper-sensitive to criticism and who expect everything to be a ‘right’. ‘Tilting’ at authority became a popular pastime, so long as you had an admiring audience and you knew the consequences wouldn’t be serious. I suspect that any Australian who challenged SpankBoss was merely being conformist.
Not only is Australia the Lucky Country it is also an Unchallenged Country. Our climate is relatively benign (domestic airports have never known ice and snow), nobody starves in Australia (but there is plenty of malnutrition), racial disharmony is vicarious involvement on the evening news (the Aborigines are too patient and too polite to be a problem), and our politics are so boring we’re even talking of voting to become a republic. Vote! I’m no warlord, but vote for independence? Don’t self-respecting people just take it?
Will Australians change? Will our lawmakers find enlightenment? It’s an obsolete question, in these times of social media and the global village. One million of us (five percent of the population) already live and work overseas as expatriates. As I counsel the young, “Australia is a good place to be born it, but it’s a lousy place to grow up in. Other places might be no better, of course, but it’s sure worthwhile finding out.”
Hi SpankBoss, I think your comments on the difference between “censorship” and comment moderation are right on. It has always been a pet peeve of mine how people are so quick to shout “censorship” in response to a private individual exercising his or her right and responsibility to control content that appears on his or her personal venue. The way I think of it, my blog is like my house–and I definitely exercise control over what is said in my house.
Hi SpankBoss, I have a friend into the scene and like you she has had derogatory comments about the spanking models she has used in the past, her answer:- “You think you can do any better, first look in the mirror then come along to a shoot, I am sure I can make you think anyone is sweet by the time I finish with you!” I kinda laughed but she was deadly serious and I agree with you it’s your site, you do what you want to those guys who are crude!