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A while back I had occasion to write the following miracle of muddy expression:

It never fails to entertain me when kinky people go all judgmental as soon as somebody takes their kink a little farther than they are comfortable with.

In a slightly different context, Mistress Matisse says something similar, only she says it much better:

It’s always amazing to me when people take on a sexually deviant identity and then try to set up restrictive rules about how that identity must be expressed. Hey, if you want to create an inflexible structure for yourself, I’m cool with that, although I might scratch my head over it privately. Why would you bother leaving behind other people’s repressive rules just to straight-jacket yourself all over again?

However, the idea that you can inflict your rules of identity on me is laughable. To me, that would be the ultimate submission — letting someone else decide how I could and could not express my sexuality. I’m far too dominant for that!

Which is why Matisse has a newspaper column and I (the gods be praised) do not.

One “Master Blackstar” called up Mistress Matisse to offer her an “affiliation” with his supersecret “House of Blackstar” BDSM organization. But only if, you understand, she allowed him to “check her out more thoroughly.” Complete with a free dungeon tour.

As she puts it: “I live to stick pins in people like this.”

People, it would be a BAD idea to assume she’s speaking metaphorically here. Ill-considered. Unwise. Nope, wouldn’t be prudent at this time. Bad idea. Also: incorrect.

My favorite bit:

I’m betting that “The House Of Blackstar” consists of Ryker — whose real name is probably Eugene — his pet iguana, Frodo, and several plump, shy, “cyber-submissive” girls who live in very small towns at least five hundred miles away from here. Call it a hunch.

Folks, if Mistress Matisse is as talented at up-close-and-personal high-spirits meanness as she is at the printed variety, it’s no mystery why she’s a success at her chosen profession.

Here’s a rare (for Spanking Blog) dose of male bottom getting spanked, courtesy of Mistress Matisse:

Milo is quite clear about wanting what I give him. I love that about him. Last night I whipped his butt, hard – it’s so nice of the Universe to be sending me all these boys lately who can really take hard impact play. Both Vermont and Milo take it so sweetly for me, and I so enjoy doing it.

I had Milo bent over at the waist with his arms tied tightly behind his back, which is a tough position in itself. I started with the soft leather floggers, but my sadism rather quickly got the better of me and I switched to the nasty rubber flogger. The tails on that thing are about an eighth of an inch thick – and I don’t mean wide, I mean thick. When they made contact with Milo’s ass – pow! – I could feel the vibration run up my arm and straight down my body to my pussy. Very hot.

I’ve noticed that lots of the BDSM-themed blogs I link to (and many more of the ones those blogs link to) are characterized by a great deal of relationship drama, stress, and unhappiness. Not all of them, by any means, but lots. I’ve never been entirely sure why this was so.

Perhaps this unattributed quote (found at Mistress Matisse’s place) sheds some light on the subject:

“There are really two kinds of submissives in the world: those who believe they don’t deserve any better, and those who believe they don’t deserve any less.”

I think much of the drama is generated by the first sort, and by the partners they settle for. In my experience, women of low self-esteem are hard to maintain happy stable relationships with, no matter how much you cane them.

On the other hand, Bethie is very much the second sort (although she’s not precisely “a submissive” as we tend to use the word.) She knows what she wants and she knows she’s worth it — for which I am more thankful than mere words can say.

I just found a really neat blog by a professional dominatrix (is that redundant?) with a lovely writing voice. Her current entry involves spanking the hell out of “a guy from Vermont with a sweet nature and a very tough ass”:

Vermont is a relatively new client to me – I think this was his third visit. I’m discovering that he’s quite delightfully masochistic, with a nice high pain threshold. When I’m with a new person, I’m so used to carefully modulating the level of physical intensity that when I began flogging his ass, it took me a few minutes to trust what I was seeing: that he could really take the heavier blows.

So I traded my soft suede flogger for a heavier, stiffer one. He took a few thumps with that and just smiled and wiggled his butt at me invitingly. Oh, this is going to be fun, I thought.

He took half an hour of pretty steady beating with my nastiest, meanest flogger. It’s got thick tails made out of rubber instead of the usual leather, and it bites – hard.

Definitely a worthy addition to the blogroll.